So you didn’t get the role – why couldn’t I just tell you that?

 

First things first – I consider it my job to make sure you feel good, like you did your best, before walking out of the room. If I think there’s something more you can bring to the scene, I’m going to ask you to do it again.  Conversely, I’m not going to let you beat a dead horse, if you ask to do it four more times after I said I have what I need.  But I will make sure, that you walk out of my audition room feeling positive, and feeling that I have what I need. Now – it may not be what I need for THIS ROLE. It may be just what I need in order to get to know you better, so that I can keep you in mind for roles that DO fit you.  It’s my job, and my passion, to see potential in you, that even you don’t see.  You know what? Right here, right now – I’m asking for your trust.  In fact, I need your trust, that even though you didn’t get this role, and you didn’t hear back – that I still see your potential, and believe there’s a role down the road that will make you shine.  I’m hopeful and fighting for every person who reads for me.  No audition is a chore for me. It is an opportunity. An exploration.  Every audition I ask for, I’m hoping that you seize this chance and show me a facet of yourself that rings true and brings this character to life.

 

Here’s a dirty little secret of mine – I may not have told you because I’m stalling.  Maybe what you brought to the table isn’t what I originally thought of the character. But it was good! And it was fresh. But it’s not what was asked for, and I know my team will shut it down. However – I’d like it in my back pocket in case my team goes – ‘enh, this is so [A], I thought that’s what I wanted but now I’m not sure…’ and I can whip your audition out of my back pocket and go ‘Well what about [B]?  I’ve got an audition here that might be exactly what we need!’

 

I’ve had a choice totally shut down, and the idea of hiring that particular actor beaten into oblivion, that it was absolutely, positively, never-in-a-million-years going to happen. I still talked to the agents that day with hope. And three, four? months later, when that actor finally signed on – other than the sweet, sweet taste of success, it was a wonderful feeling, knowing we’d finally made it happen, together.

 

And here’s the shittiest reason I didn’t give you feedback – I sadly didn’t have time. I spend my time fighting for and searching for and trying to discover that person (maybe it’s you!) who is the right fit.  And for the most part – feedback doesn’t help you.  I could spend 5-10 minutes giving your feedback, but chances are, it’s specific to the audition you had with me, and any notes won’t help you for your next audition.  If I did that for every actor who came in – I wouldn’t have time to actually hold auditions.

 

No news is not bad news. It’s just that I have nothing to help you move forward – if and when I do have something to help you move forward, I’ll share it with you. I promise.

So you didn’t get the role – because you’re not the right ‘fit’

Some of it is stuff you can’t change, and that’s the hardest feedback for me to give an actor. It’s easier for me to give that kind of feedback to your agent, because if I’m looking for someone short and you’re 6 feet tall, your agent will stop calling me. If I need someone who speaks Russian and you don’t – your agent will stop calling me. Here’s where it gets worse – if I need someone with size DD boobs, because they’re a caricature of society’s ingrained idea of “sexy,” your agent understands that and will stop calling me. And here’s my least favorite – if my network has to have a specific number of actors that can check off an ethnicity other than Caucasian on their employment forms, and they’ve decided it’s going to be this one particular character – your agent understands that, and will stop calling me.  I hate all those calls.  I’d love to live in a world in which our looks didn’t define our character. That any person could play and represent any character, as long as they brought truth to the character.  However – there are some instinctive connotations that come with our looks, and sometimes we have to use those looks as a tool, to make our audience trust the truths we’re trying to tell.  And sometimes we can’t just cast an individual role. We have to always keep in mind the entire tapestry we’re weaving.

 

What’s harder to explain to an agent, but easier to explain when I’m talking to an actor one on one, is when the actual character doesn’t fit.

 

Maybe I can sense that you’ve got a darkness that you can bring forth. But maybe that darkness comes out as power – as a truly villainous, psychopathic, tortured hero of his/her own mind. That’s a beautiful, twisted character to explore – but this one, this role that I brought you in for? This role’s darkness comes from a deep, burning desire to be noticed and loved. This character lashes out in the hopes that someone will grab hold, and save them from drowning.  Both dark, twisted characters – and fabulous ones to explore and create. But one is the role that’s written, and one is a role that’s down the pipeline, that you should wait for.

 

Or maybe this character is sensitive, and vulnerable – which I know you can do, believe me.  But maybe your default as a person, is having that shell around the sensitive and vulnerable center. There’s nothing wrong with that! But there are also people who are able to be sensitive and vulnerable on the surface. Maybe they’re not as great as you are at creating that shell – and that’s what makes you fit in different roles. You’re both capable of sensitive and vulnerable. But there are different shades to every character. None are wrong – it’s just a choice, in the end. What story you want to tell.

 

And on rare occasions – I have to make the call that after going through the entire process –  a producer brings up a friend of a friend, and wants them hired for this role.

 

There are a few possibilities here. One – that person sucks at acting, and it’s a total favor. Everyone on the team knows, everyone on set will know, everyone in post will know, and it’ll even come across on-screen to the audience. They suck, and they’re the reason this industry seems so greasy.

 

Great. The vindictive version is out of the way.

 

Two – that person is an underrated actor that doesn’t stand a chance next to someone with a more impressive resume, a.k.a. quite possibly you. Because of the relationship they have with that producer, or that director, or whoever, they’re getting an opportunity and they’re not taking it lightly. They will do their best, and it’s quite possible they’ll bring something totally different to the role, and bring something unexpectedly beautiful to the story.  Don’t hate this person – because someday it could be you.

 

Three – I can’t hate on directors/producers/writers that want to hire their friends.  Think about it.  If you were starting a business venture, would you want to hire someone who looks good on paper, who maybe even gave a great interview – or would you to start that company with your best friend who has an MBA, who you’d trust with your life and who you could talk to about anything?  At a certain point – you want to surround yourself with those you trust to understand not only your vision but also your process. And you’d want to respect them too – think of that friend, that’s awesome at everything but doesn’t have time to work on your projects. What if you had an opportunity to offer them real money, with a real project, and actually get to work together? Wouldn’t you jump at that opportunity?

 

I confess, I do it too. There are certain actors I love and after knowing them for a while – that I trust. I bring them up for everything, because I trust them and respect them.

 

There are so, so, SO many factors that go into why someone gets a role.  Often times – if I say you’re not the right fit, it’s a multitude of reasons that yes, I could explain, but it won’t help you with your next audition.  So for now – you did well, but the fit isn’t quite right.

So you didn’t get the role – and you don’t know why.

 

It’s hard, with every role you don’t get. No matter how you felt walking out of the room – whether you think you bombed, or you think you absolutely nailed it – it’s always nerve-wracking, waiting for the response.  And then when you hear it’s not you – it SUCKS.  Maybe you even planned to turn it down, because after actually being in the room, you realized this wasn’t the right fit for you!  But it would be nicer to be able to say no, than to never have the chance.

 

And I know – the lack of feedback is hard. If you could just know why it wasn’t the right fit, it’d be a little easier to move forward, right?

 

I’m sorry.

 

I’m sorry you didn’t get the role, I’m sorry it sucks, I’m sorry it doesn’t make sense.

 

Here’s the silver lining – if you did everything in your power to be ready for that audition, then it’s not your fault.

 

Hell – 9 times out of 10, even if you weren’t absolutely prepared, it’s not your fault.  There are SO many factors that go into what gets someone a role.  You didn’t do anything wrong.  You may have hit every single beat as we heard it in our heads. You may have become my new favorite person. We may now even be planning to take over the world together. But that doesn’t mean you’re right for this role.  It just means you’re an awesome person.

 

Maybe it was a bad day, maybe you were nervous and couldn’t work through the jitters. If you tanked the audition and you know it – just thank them for their time, and succinctly let them know you hope you get another chance to show them what you can really do.  I say succinct, because I do not have time for a ten-minute disclaimer of you telling me you can do better – I’m gonna want to see you do better. Don’t waste my time, or it’s going to feel like false talk.  In this situation? You know why you didn’t get the role.

 

But maybe it was a great day, and okay – maybe it wasn’t flawless, but you hit some pretty great beats, and you were totally in control, and in the zone, and there was a good connection! You walked out feeling good!

 

I know it’s frustrating, the generic “You did well, but it’s not going further right now.”  But it’s true. You did do well. There’s nothing really wrong with the audition you gave. But think of it this way.  Let’s say you get the opportunity to hire a hypothetical teacher for your hypothetical child. A private tutor, that will shape your child’s education and get them ready for the real world. Now – do you want someone who can do it? Who can teach your child, and can get them into college? This person will teach them all the right things, they’ll get excited for the right accomplishments, they’ll make sure your child has every box checked to get them squared away in life.  Or, do you want someone who can not only do it, but is excited to do work with your child, and happens to be a great match with your child.  In fact – when this particular teacher works with your child, you see your child light up in a way you’ve never seen them before.  You suddenly start finding out all of these things about your child, because this teacher just opens up a whole new world for them, and teases out interests, and skills, and complexities you never knew your child was capable of.

 

To a writer – that child is his character. And the right actor doesn’t just get the scene right – they actually breathe life into the character and bring it off a page, giving it a world and a mind in which to grow.  That’s what we’re looking for.  And if you’re not the right fit – that’s okay. That keeps you available for the roles that do fit you. And forcing yourself into a role that doesn’t fit – that’s like forcing a bad relationship to work.  It ends up being uncomfortable and obvious to all others that it doesn’t fit. And generally speaking – it ends up making everyone look bad. Let’s avoid that!

 

In all honesty – I could continue on this analogy, and also point out that we’re looking for a teacher who wants to work with the parent, to try to find the best things for the child, as opposed to deciding what’s best for the child and trying to kidnap him…you get my drift. I understand that you have a distinct idea for this character. But ultimately – the character belongs to its creators. And they need to be okay with your ideas, in order for them to work.

I know when you find a character who really speaks to you, and that you really feel you can bring to life – it’s deeply personal, and all-consuming.  It’s easy to get possessive of the path that character takes.

That’s the beauty of a pre-read – you have the freedom, in a pre-read, to direct the character however you want.  It may be the same direction the creative team was already thinking – it may be totally different.  The point of a pre-read is for us to get an idea how you understand the character, while at the same time, assessing your acting skills.

Your first audition for a role is your chance to explore, to really show your viewpoint of the world, your opinion of humanity, and your understanding of self. It’s your chance to be everything you want to be.  Dare to be real, or dare to be fantastical. Take a chance.

After that, though, it’s a collaboration.  If the team likes you, and likes you enough to listen to what you’re planning to do with this character – that’s fantastic.  But keep in mind – this was their character first.  They know it’s a collaboration too – otherwise the screenwriter would have just written a novel. Instead, they chose to make it a movie.

I used this analogy in another post – it’s as though the character is a child, a product of its creative parents, and the parents have come to you to be a nanny, or a tutor, or whatever care-taker archetype you prefer.  And as that nanny, or tutor, or whatever care-taker archetype you are, you may find a child that is so special, you just want to spend all your time with it, shaping its mind and helping it grow so that it can go out into the real world.

BUT.

You can’t kidnap the child.  It’s not yours, just because you like it.

Maybe the parents love what you’re doing with the kid, so they give you total freedom. Hey – Annie Sullivan was able to do whatever she wanted with Helen Keller. And if she hadn’t been given that freedom – maybe she wouldn’t have achieved what she did.

But most of the time – there’s a structure the creators want the child/character to fit in.  You have to respect that, and figure out how to bring the most you can, within that frame.  Can you, and should you, push the boundaries a bit? Of course. WITH THEIR PERMISSION.

Filmmaking is a collaborative process.  It’s your responsibility, as an actor, to bring something to the table, to be thinking about this character with the care and attention only you know how to give.  It’s also your responsibility, as a filmmaker, to be open to the collaborative process, and to be ready to compromise, in order to find the best future for the character.

 

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If you come into audition for me, and you’re so nervous that you can’t get through your audition – that’s not okay.  I’m sorry to say it this harshly – but I will hold it against you.

Here’s why.

If your nerves are so bad, if your jitters are so bad, that you can’t get through a scene – that means you weren’t prepared. Yes – I count being that nervous, as not being prepared. If you’re so incredibly nervous that you can’t do your audition – that’s something you need to address before you walk in my door.

Let’s break down a few of those situations, and how to deal with them.  This by no means covers all reasons for nerves – if you’ve got another reason not addressed here, let me know in the comments and I’ll try to help you out.

 

• You’re just the type of person who gets bad nerves.

Maybe this is something you’ve dealt with your whole life – maybe it’s something that’s only come into effect recently. Maybe it’s case-sensitive – it only happens in auditions, or grocery stores, or when you’re in bars specifically designed to look like a spaceship. Or maybe it’s a generalized social anxiety disorder, and it happens to you anywhere, and anytime, there are people near you.  The nerves hit you, and maybe you shake, maybe you cringe, maybe your throat closes, maybe you develop tunnel vision. But in all those situations – the words you want to say are unable to choke out, and your body betrays you.  You might be totally prepared for your audition, but you just can’t get the words out.

If this is something you’re aware of – it’s something you need to deal with. Auditioning is a difficult, but necessary, process for actors, especially when starting out.  Work with a therapist (and yes, I said therapist, not just a coach) in order to address these issues in a healthy manner. Figure out your triggers, and how to navigate them before you come into an audition.  If you break down in my audition room – my first thought, and I’m sorry, is going to be that you’re not ready to be an actor. Because if you haven’t figured out how to deal with your nerves for an audition, I can’t trust that you’ve figured out how to deal with them on set, with my whole team waiting and the camera rolling.

If you absolutely know you can do the role, but you just can’t get through an audition – request  the opportunity to do a self tape. See if the casting assistant will come get you if you step outside the office while you’re waiting, so that you don’t have to be around any people.  Ask the casting director for a moment while you take a sip of water and breathe. Maybe come up with a quick habit that calms you down, and ask for a moment to do that before you start. Yes, these practices have been hilariously mocked in web sketches, but who cares? You want the best performance possible.  I once had an actor who would turn and face the wall, and make the weirdest sounds while punching himself… keep in mind his process took five, maybe ten seconds, but when he turned around, he did a fantastic job and got the role.  It becomes an awesome story when it works out. And that’s the point, right?

 

• This particular one means more.

I get it. This one’s special. Maybe it’s the project, maybe it’s the casting director, maybe it’s the writer, or maybe, it’s the character. Whatever it is – this one’s the dream. This is it, the whole reason you got into this industry in the first place. The kahuna. Your big break.  No matter how prepared you are – just walking into that room, knowing that it’s here, and now, will make those jitters pop up and destroy you.

But guess what? It’s not that special.

I know, I know, this is the coolest opportunity you’ve ever had.  But here’s the key thing – it won’t be your last. I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but there will be another one. Another huge director, another famous studio, another fantastic script that comes your way.  Trust in your own future, if only to get through today.  Take a beat in the waiting room to calm down, and remind yourself that this is just one of the amazing opportunities you’ll have in your life. Also? This is their one opportunity to see you. Because you’re going to go on to be amazing. Stupendous – legendary! And this is their one shot to get to know the real you!  So be yourself. Because you’re worth this opportunity, just as you are.  While you’re waiting, remind yourself – you’re the catch. Not them.

 

• You’re not prepared.

This one’s simple.  I’m not talking about being off-book – I’m talking about not working through the scene. You didn’t prepare, you haven’t thought about any of your choices or broken down a single beat – maybe you thought you’d wing it, or maybe you thought your natural raw talent would shine through. But now you’ve got a couple extra heartbeats, the adrenaline coursing through your veins, your mind’s in overdrive, and the fumbles are taking over.

Here’s how to avoid this – don’t be an asshat. Prepare for your audition.

(Scared of cold read? Lightening-prep guide coming.)

 

• Something just happened in the waiting room.

Maybe it was good, maybe it was bad.  Maybe you ran into a bunch of friends from your acting class, and got to talking! Or maybe the casting assistant up front is actually a cool person and you were enjoying yourself!  (Yes – it’s fun talking to you, if there’s time.)  And when your name was called, you weren’t in a place where you could play a PTSD veteran coming home to find his brother sleeping with his wife (yes, that’s the plot of BROTHERS).

Here’s the thing – your actor friends, the casting assistant – they know why you’re here. If you say, “I’d love to catch up! But can we do it after my audition? I just gotta get in the right head space…” they may laugh, but they’re here for the same goal. They’ll let you do your thing. And hey, if chatting helps you get into character, because it’s a charming, talkative character – more power to you! Just make sure you do what you need to do to be in the right place, before walking into the audition room.

Along the same lines – if something bad happened in the waiting room, address it. Maybe there was a car accident outside. Maybe you got a phone call with bad news. Or maybe it’s something like the auditions are running an hour behind, or a new note was just thrown at you.  However you need to process that information – do it. Don’t shove it aside, unless you know that works for you. Talk about it, call a friend, down a cup of coffee – and don’t afraid to ask for a minute.  Casting may not be able to give you 20 minutes, but I’ve never heard of a casting office that couldn’t give you another two minutes.

 

• Last but definitely not least – it’s just a few jitters.

Some nerves, are to be expected. In all honesty – I think nerves come when you care.  And I appreciate that you care!

Just close your eyes, and take a couple deep breaths. Don’t let those nerves take you over.  Acknowledge that they’re there, and remind yourself it’s okay that they’re there.  Take a breath before you start.

Identify how those jitters show themselves, then do what you can to get yourself back in a comfort zone.  A few common ones:

• Wavering voice – say something on the way into the room, to get in the groove of speaking. A ‘hello! Hope it’s going well today!” never hurt anyone. And on the rare occasion the character calls for a wavery voice – you’re in luck!
• Shaking hands – figure out a way to tuck them away. Your pockets, folded arms, or giving yourself a small amount of business, can hide shaking hands.
• Hunched shoulders – before you start, squeeze your shoulders up to your ears while breathing in, and as you exhale, let them relax down. Clasp your hands behind your back, or find another pose that feels natural, but forces those shoulders down.
• Dry throat – bring a bottle of water. Or ask for one. I feel like this one’s obvious.
• Blushing – I’ve seen people get flushed and red, appearing on the throat and upper chest – if you know it happens, to a point that it’s distracting, or it makes you self-conscious and that distracts you – invest in some high-necked shirts.
• Sweating – same thing. There are a lot of undershirts with that “wick-away” technology.

It’s okay to be nervous. It’s not okay to be unprepared for nerves. But it’s within your power to control them, and not let them hinder your life. Don’t let them win!

 

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In auditioning fighters and wrestlers who are transitioning into actors, I’ve noticed a distinctly different approach to acting.  There’s an aspect to it that I think all actors could use to their benefit.

Fighters know that their bodies are tools. Their every muscle has a function that supports their purpose – to win. And on top of that – their every emotion is trained and used as a tool, to fuel their strength and focus.

I’ve seen actors that tower over me, with muscles rippling upon muscles, who are so nervous for their audition that their voices quiver.  Do they mask it, and try to squash it down, hoping that it doesn’t affect their performance? No. More often than not – it’s the first thing out of their mouth. “I’m so nervous,” they say. At the same time, I can see they are addressing the issue in their mind, the same way they do before a fight – it’s an acknowledgement of humanity, it’s shining a light on whatever weaknesses are present, in order to expose the problem and find a solution before stepping into the room.

In the same manner – when giving a wrestler direction in a scene, they hear it differently. They hear it, and I can see they’re thinking ahead, about the goal of the scene, and how they can expand on that note to serve the bigger picture. They want to use every tool at their disposal, to achieve the greatest scene.

What’s refreshing, is the lack of ego, regarding one’s own vulnerabilities. And regarding one’s power.

I may be talking out of my ass, but I’d bet when stepping into a ring, a fighter must be aware of themselves in a way that none of the rest of us are.  They need to be aware of every strength and weakness, both physically and emotionally, in a way that leaves no surprises against an opponent.  There’s no time or energy for ego – no room to squash a hurt down deep inside, no room to have a skill that you’re only proud of secretly. Everything must be out in the open, ready to use or ready to protect.

I’m not saying that everything should be on the surface. Our complexity as humans is what makes us interesting characters, and depth is as important as any other tool, for an actor.

But the focus on a goal that’s bigger than just yourself, combined with the understanding that you have an arsenal at your disposal – using your body, your mind and your heart to serve something greater than just you, without ego, will allow you to achieve greater work than just you.

 

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The purpose of this isn’t to tell you the class to take, the book to read, or the bar to go to.  There’s no formula to break into the film industry. Do I have recommendations? Of course I do.  And I’ll share them.  But will any one thing I say, guarantee you an acting job? Nope. Not in the least. If you gamble your last penny on an opinion of mine, consider it gone.

When I leave Los Angeles, and talk to those elusive characters who know nothing of the film industry, I like to point out that outside of this town – everyone thinks success in film requires 90% luck.  Okay, I’ll be fair – they think it’s 80% luck. Getting that one opportunity to let you shine – that’s the main struggle. Finding an open door, an open mind, an open ear – THAT’S the golden nugget we’re all fighting to find.

But if you’ve spent any amount of time out here, you quickly realize – flip that around.  This industry is mostly hard work, and only a dash of luck.  Everyone I respect in this town, works their ass off to follow their dreams. Not that you aren’t!  I know you are working hard. The thing that does suck about our industry, is that I’ve met people who have worked hard their whole lives, and they’re still dreaming of the day they actually get a project they like.

I truly believe, that everyone gets a door opened for them, at some point in their career. However – you may not realize that door was opened. You may have been too scared to walk through that door. You may have fallen through the door. You may have walked through that door, and declared “I’m here!” and never gone anywhere after that.  But that door should have been just an opening for you to take off running.

Let me explain what I mean by that.  You may have been offered an opportunity to star in something, and you turned it down, because it didn’t look right. Maybe it was a theater opportunity, while you were focusing on co-star auditions. Maybe it was a short film, or a student film, when you decided you were only going to focus on network projects. Maybe it was a weird little web series, but you’d decided you were only doing drama, because your comedy didn’t always land the way you wanted it to.  But those could have been launching points. You never know what is going to take off. Judge the projects you do, by the quality of the filmmakers. Not the media outlet, not image you want to present of yourself.  More often than not – you’ll discovers skills you never thought you had, because you’d never had the opportunity to flex those muscles.

You may have been too scared – I think that’s self-explanatory. If you think you’ve bitten off more than you can chew – work your ass off and JUST DO IT. Nike has it right – You know what needs to be done. Yes, it’ll be hard. But yes, you can do it. Just work hard.

You may have fallen through the door – meaning you haven’t been working on SHIT this whole time, you’ve just been trying to find an open door. If you haven’t been working on your skills, doing your research, and generally making yourself absolutely ready for that one big lucky strike – then when an opportunity comes along, you’ll just stumble through it. Maybe it’ll be half-assed because you don’t consider it to be a REAL opportunity, just something to bide your time. Maybe it’ll be half-assed because you haven’t put any work in before now – you just assumed you had natural, raw talent that would shine through when you get your REAL opportunity.  My point is – if you don’t work hard on all your projects, and approach them with respect and diligence – not only will your work appear to be shitty (because you half-assed it), but you’ll have developed a reputation for shitty work. Off to a great start, right?

Lastly – if you get an opportunity, and it goes well, that doesn’t mean you’ve ‘made it.’ Every project, every role is a struggle to get off the ground.  One good job does not mean the work is done. It means the work has only just begun.

Here’s my point – this industry requires a lot of blood, sweat and tears. And there’s no way around that.  It also, sadly, requires a bit of Irish gold – and that’s why I started this site.  There’s no step-by-step process to succeed, no particular class to take, no particular party to attend. But there are some tools I can share, to help you, so that when the door cracks opens for you (and stay strong – it will) you’ll be ready to blast through that door and start running through the maze.

 

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